From Exes to Random Musings: The Bizarre Thoughts Brits Have During Sex
Brits Reveal Bizarre Thoughts During Sex: Exes, Celebrities, and Sibling Fantasies
By Xantha Leatham, Executive Science Editor | Updated: 14:11 BST, 10 June 2025
When it comes to intimacy, most hope their partner is fully present. But a new study reveals awkward truths about wandering minds during sex. A poll of 2,000 Brits found two-thirds admit to mental distractions mid-passion. While stress over work or chores is common, some thoughts are more eyebrow-raising.
Top Distractions: Exes, Celebrities, and Family
- 17% admitted thinking about an ex.
- 13% fantasized about a celebrity.
- 12% focused on a friend, while 9% imagined a colleague.
- A cringe-worthy 4% confessed to thoughts about their partner’s sibling.
Men were twice as likely as women to dwell on colleagues, celebrities, or their partner’s sibling. Women, meanwhile, reported more “real-world” distractions like finances or chores. Regionally, Manchester residents frequently thought about sports, while Londoners topped the list for ex-related daydreams.
Caption: 4% admitted their minds wandered to their partner’s sibling.
Lies and Tech Troubles
The study, by Asda Online Doctor, also uncovered discomfort around honesty:
- 41% lied about sexual satisfaction.
- 10% checked their phone during sex.
- 9% of men sought AI for sex advice instead of talking to partners.
Dr. Crystal Wyllie of Asda Online Doctor emphasized, “Habitual dishonesty creates emotional distance. Open communication is key for a healthy relationship.”
Caption: Women reported more stress-related distractions during intimacy.
Lover Types and Temptation Tactics
A related Australian study identified four lover categories:
- Mild: 2–3 times weekly.
- Libidinous: Up to 10 times weekly.
Another survey highlighted tactics to avoid cheating, including prioritizing date nights (75%), avoiding tempting situations, or fixating on a partner’s flaws.
Final Thoughts
While fantasies vary, experts stress transparency. As Dr. Wyllie notes, confronting insecurities builds stronger connections—even if your mind occasionally strays to Ryan Gosling or your grocery list.
Infographic: Strategies to Resist Cheating
- Relationship Enhancement: More dates, affection, and effort.
- Proactive Avoidance: Dodging tempting interactions.
- Derogation: Focusing on a temptation’s negative traits.
Despite tactics, researchers found nothing guarantees fidelity once temptation strikes. Honesty, it seems, remains the best policy—in and out of the bedroom.
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